Reflections from San Francisco Femdom Domina Yuki
Essays on Power and Surrender
The Cost of Hiding Your Submission, the Relief of Being Fully Known
The most meaningful part of being a Domme for Me is creating a space where people can be seen and met. Though things are shifting, BDSM is still stigmatized. Submissive or kinky desires often don’t…
Play in BDSM and Feeling Alive or, why googly eyes are an essential item in My kink toolkit
Most adults don’t consciously decide to stop playing, it just fades. Life fills up. Work gets heavier. Responsibilities pile up. Somewhere along the way, playfulness can start to feel indulgent or…
What I Want When I Hurt You: Pain Play, Presence, and Energy Exchange in BDSM
There's an urge inside Me to push into edges. I've always been this way. When I was young, I had frequent conflicts with my mother. I challenged her constantly by questioning the rules she tried to…
Entering into a D/s Relationship Requires More Than Desire
There is a difference between wanting to serve a Dominant in an ongoing D/s relationship and the reality of being in such a dynamic. For a dynamic like this to work, clarity and honesty matter. you…
On Becoming a Discerning Dominant: Growth, Self-Trust, and Intentional D/s Dynamics
A great deal has shifted for Me in the seventeen years I’ve been engaging in BDSM as a Dominant. That evolution did not happen by accident. It came from a sustained commitment to growth and a desire…
Financial and Material Contribution: Where Service Has Deep Impact
Naming financial submission and material contribution in a D/s dynamic tends to trigger the assumption that the dynamic is transactional, or in other words, not meaningful. That reaction is…
Why People in Positions of Power Are Drawn to Relational D/s — and Why I’m Drawn to Them
People in positions of power hold a lot, and over time it becomes how you move through everything. You’re the one deciding and adjusting. Attention stays directed outward, tracking responsibility and…
On Relational Dominance: Where Surrender Is Met, Not Taken
In seventeen years as a Femdom, many people have reached out to Me with the desire to submit. What I have learned is that many are not actually seeking a true Dominant or real D/s relationship. What…